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How to get everyone in the world to like you… December 13, 2008

First Step: This is impossible.

My best friends on a shopping trip

My best friends on a shopping trip

As Abraham Lincoln stated, “You cannot please all of the people, all of the time”. Even the nicest people in the world have their haters, because people will inexplicably hate people for no reason. You do not have the problem. They have the problem.

Just look at Jesus, the most God-like, loving person to ever exist and he was CRUCIFED for it! Even if you were covered in chocolate, you still wouldn’t be the most liked person in the world. Because some people inexplicably don’t like chocolate. Some are allergic to it. Some ate too much chocolate mousse at their school fate in Grade 3 and threw it up and so have a taste aversion to it.

So whatever you do there will be those who love you, those who hate you, those you don’t understand you, those you have to explain yourself to a million times and they STILL don’t get you, those who idolize you and then expect you to be perfect and get disillusioned when you trip and fall like a normal human being and those so self centered they don’t even give you a second’s thought. This is a hard lesson, one I’ve had to accept myself, that I can’t please everyone, I can only please myself with who I am and how I’ve acted.

How to Get More People Than Not To Like You

Be true to yourself.

Everyone hates an artist who sells out. You have to know who you are and be confident. People don’t like people who are down on themselves all the times, constantly beating themselves up for their mistakes and complaining. But don’t be too cocky either – humility is the key. Humility is thinking of others more than you think of yourself. Not being afraid to share the spotlight around to others, but not being afraid to accept compliments either.

Don’t care about people liking you

Insecurity is a major turn off. Some people feel they have to have a group of followers to assure them of their self-worth. That will turn you into either a clingy or a controlling person, which in the end will loose you all those friends you fought so hard to gain. People are attracted to those who are secure in themselves, who know they don’t have to prove themselves to everyone. This also makes you a lot less prone to peer pressure and pleasing everyone, which goes back to step 1.

3. Genuinely Care about Other people

It’    It’s that simple. Ask others about how their day went before ranting on about yours. If they had a lousy day, cheer them up. Encourage people, give them attention and make them feel  important. This is the central cry of every person’s heart – to be important, to matter. As Dale Carnegie says, “You can make more friends in two months  by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

Don’t be afraid to give compliments, as long as they’re genuine (fake sounding flattery will only get you crossed off party lists), it will make people’s day and light them up like nothing  else. Be creative about the compliments too, don’t just say, “nice shirt”, try to make it more memorable (but not weird: “You nose reminds me of my aunt’s pet Chihuahua” just may be crossing the line). For instance, instead of the standard “nice shirt”, you could say “Orange is definitely your color” or “You always look so unique and stand out of the crowd”. Compliments about personal attributes go further than just the standard, “nice hair” e.g., “I love it how you’re so patient with people, it really puts them at ease”.

For some other great resources:

  • Read Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People“.

The advice in that book is gold! It covers everything from arguments to influencing people in a positive way. A must for your book collection!

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to tame the savage beast December 12, 2008

Filed under: Life ideas and advice — bessabariangirl @ 3:20 am
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I have discovered something…the power of a smile.

Smiling in the face of war

Smiling in the face of war

Seriously, just flash it at people and pretend that it will melt their hearts into soft, pliable putty and it WILL! Even the meanest, strictest goes-out-of-her-way-to-catch-you teacher at my school is starting to succumb. But then maybe that has to do with the fact I play music to her mother at a retirement home once a week…(music is also related to taming the savage beast, as the old adage goes)

It’s like a ticket into a persons heart…a key to the things that they keep locked up inside.

I’ve never seen a smiling face that was not beautiful.

Do not repay evil with evil…rather conquer evil by doing good…Nothing niggles evil more than a smile in the face of their slander

So go ahead…stretch that thing across your cheekbones and stun the world with your brilliance.

A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.  ~Phyllis Diller

*Warning* There is such a thing as smiling too much…as can be seen in Olympic Synchronized Swimmers. Smiling too much makes you come across as insincere and annoying. A good rule of thumb may be to smile when you mean it – when you see someone and look them in the eye, when you see something that triggers the warmth of happiness in your brain, don’t be afraid to translate that into a grin.

*Note to girls with braces* Dont let those wire spiders get in the way of you and the world by hiding thwem. I had braces for two years, and my boyfriend informs me that guys actually have a thing for braces  he and his mates in years 8 and 9 would get excited over them. So flaunt em baby!

Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been.  ~Mark Twain, Following the Equator

Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been. ~Mark Twain, Following the Equator